FAFO in Education

I’ve been watching too many videos about parenting lately. About the things I’m supposed to be doing and the things that I most definitely should not be doing. The algorithm has me all figured out, churning out endless content about setting clear boundaries, establishing daily routines, and… well, that and a lot of Liverpool F.C. news, because honestly, this off season has been absolutely insane.

Recently, I’ve noticed an uptick on content related to FAFO parenting, or Fuck Around and Find Out parenting, where parents are encouraged to take a more laissez faire approach (e.g. just let the kids do as they will and let them deal with the consequences of their actions). FAFO parenting (supposedly) teaches children to be more accountable for their own actions and enables them to learn from their mistakes. If your kid doesn’t want to wear sun screen, let them fuck around and find out that getting sunburnt really sucks. This is in stark contrast to curling parenting (where the parents remove all the obstacles for their children) or gentle parenting (where there is an emphasis on validating the children’s feelings).

I often conflate guidance for parents with lessons for teachers, knowing full well that students are not little children (although I suspect there are some overlaps). Along these lines, I often see a lot of FAFO in the way we approach education. If a student doesn’t show up to class or fail to follow our instructions, let them fuck around and find out. Of course we don’t call this approach FAFO, but instead, we use words like autonomy, accountability, and resilience to legitimize our approach.

One example of this is when I asked several coordinators during the last semester if we could stagger our assignment due dates across our three courses because the students complained that three of our big assignments all overlapped in one week. The response that I got from my colleagues was a unanimous “no”. To be fair, I think there is a legitimate reason for their response, which is that the students know when the deadlines are at the beginning of the semester so let them sort it out for themselves. Let them be accountable. If they fuck around and don’t manage their own affairs, they will inevitably find out the consequences of their actions (and there is an important lesson to be learned there).

Figuring out the best way for me to educate our students (in a manner that feels genuine and authentic to who I am) has been a recurring struggle (for example, see my previous rants about whether students are our customers or whether there is room for “unreasonable hospitality” in education). I do not (or cannot) hide the fact that I am more of that “gentle” or “curling” educator (an embarrassing fact that I was once proud of). I’ve often been told by my colleagues that I am too responsive to the students and that I should just let them figure things out on their own.

While I cannot completely subscribe to the FAFO approach (both in parenting and in education), I suppose there are things that I can learn from its essence, like giving the students more opportunities to fail (so that they can learn from their mistakes) or trusting them that they will be able to manage the hardships. In educating them, I am trying to learn for myself when I need to put up some guard rails or when I can remove the training wheels. How this will all turn out when the new academic year starts, I guess I’ll fuck around and find out.

A Quick Shout Out to My Wonderful Student Assistants!

A quick shout out to my wonderful student assistants (Jérémy Bran, Shwetha Rao, Desislava Panayotova, and Rachele Zingaro) who have been helping me improve the Conflict Prevention & Resolution (SLC 2004) course over the last few months.

The first iteration of the course - thanks to our incredible tutors - went relatively well. However, with the help of these hard working assistants and paying careful attention to the inputs shared by our students, we are continuing to improve the CPR experience here at the Maastricht University Faculty of Law.

For now, just wanted to publicly say thank you Jeremy, Shwetha, Desi & Rachele!! Hope you are enjoying your well-deserved Summer break 🤩

Congrats to Our IBA-VIAC Mediation & Negotiation Team!!

A very heartfelt congratulations to the Maastricht University Faculty of Law Team for the CDRC Vienna - The IBA-VIAC Mediation & Negotiation Competition: Consisting of Natalia Podstawka, Iris Cecconi, Nadien Anindya Hasan, Vera Väresmaa, Anna Haesaert, and wonderfully coached by Joan Duhaylungsod. A very special shout out to Vera and Anna who placed in the Top 3 amongst all of the mediators in the competition.

The team worked extremely hard, balancing school work, actual work, and a wide variety of other hurdles to make it to this point and I cannot be more proud of this incredible team. We are also grateful to our Dean Jan Smits for supporting us, Elke Hundhausen and Britt van Soest for helping us with the logistics, Pauline Melin, our overworked moot competition coordinator, and everyone from our Maastricht community that helped us get to Vienna through your generous support of our bake sale and other Maastricht Negotiation & Conflict Resolution Clinic events.

Thank you everyone and high fives to everyone on the team for performing so admirably (despite my mediocre management)!! 🧡

The First UM ELS Moot Court Competition

We just orgnized our first UM ELS Moot Court Competition!! Great pleading by all of the participants, who were selected and invited to particiapte by their tutors after showcasing their pleading skills during our course on Conflict Prevention & Resolution. Congrats to all the participants: Andreas Christophi, Marcel Ursachi, Ariana Manolescu, Lina Medica, Jaša Čatar, Juan Miguel Cuaresma, Ana Domínguez Rodríguez, Emma Maccanti, Julia Jagodzińska, Parames Piyathanasirikul, David FASTRIOK, Dimitar Tsonev, Lorine Mawet, Eleonora Sogliani.

A big round of applause to the winning team of Lina, Miguel and Jasa (who also won the award for Best Oralist). Congrats also to Julia Jagodzińska and Lorine Mawet, who received the Judge's Award for Best Argumentation. 🏆

A special thank you to the wonderful jury members (Mariah Kuijer, Rick Schumans, Pauline Melin, Claire Stalenhoef, Annefleur Timmermans, Lara Vangoethem, Lucia Jeremiašová) who took time out of their extremely busy schedules to listen, deliberate and choose our winners. We are also grateful of our Dean, Jan Smits, for joining us and handing out the trophies to our winners!! It was a great day for mooting here in Maastricht 🤩

Thank You to the Inaugural MNCRC Student Board Members!!

As the 2024-2025 academic year comes to an end, I would like to express my deepest gratitude to the MNCRC’s first inaugural student board consisting of Szymon Górny, Iris Cecconi, Anna Haesaert, Natalia Podstawka, David FASTRIOK, and Vera Väresmaa.

During their term, this team took part in organizing two international conferences on negotiation and arbitration, facilitated multiple negotiation and mediation workshops, and increased our visibility and outreach, building a solid foundation for future student boards to build upon. Speaking of which, we are lucky to have Iris Cecconi stay on board to continue her role as VP of Community Engagement. We will shortly announce the new incoming board members that will join Iris, but for now, we just wanted to say thank you for all of your hardwork.

A very special thank you to Natalia for her leadership, dedication, and organizational skills, serving as the tireless President of this board. Thank you and wishing you all a wonderful future ahead!! Sharing here a snapshot from our last board meeting/thank you dinner 🤩

(Yet Another) Bake Sale! This Time to Get the CDRC Team to Vienna!

A very grateful thank you to everyone who stopped by and supported the "bake sale" yesterday to help our CDRC team get to CDRC Vienna - The IBA-VIAC Mediation & Negotiation Competition!

We were overwhelmed by your generosity and support as we were able to sell all of the tasty baked goods (from the "Finnish" cookies to our vegan brownies), the popcorn chicken bowls, and the bibimbap onigiris that we prepared (although some of the vanilla mochi ice cream melted before we could sell them, but alas).

We are burying the lead here a bit because not only were we able to raise 360.80 euros (plus 25.30 lei) during our fundraising, but after meeting with our Dean, Jan Smits, during the bake sale, the Faculty of Law has kindly agreed to help us cover the remaining travel costs necessary for the team to get to Vienna (and back)!!!

We would like to thank not only Jan and the faculty management team, but also to all of our kind supporters: Ilaria Piovesan, Marta Pertegás Sender, Rachele Zingaro, Sofiia Yermolenko, Albert Stefanoiu, Lucas von Hodenberg, Marmik D., William Bull, Matteo Bonelli, Dihya HAMIZI, Damian Chmielewski, Solomiia Humeha, Juan Miguel Cuaresma, Mariah Kuijer, Noam Biard, Sabina Bałazy, Cecilia Salomoni, Zuzanna Węsierska, Floortje Stijnen, Anke Moerland, Josh N., Alisha Nadine Harahap, Carla Emily Fleur Böhm, María Prieto Rodríguez, Kamil Żbik, Meharbash Kashif, Ana Martin Sanchez, Gaelle Chatelain, Réka Nagy, Martina Vitiello, Lejla Kruševljanin, Inês de Amorim Afonso, Pradhi Deshmukh, Norris Geafar, Emily Kautto, Pieter Vanhoutteghem, Robin Martens, Maaike Eggen, Wen-Ting Yang, Alina Halfbrodt, Szymon Górny and also to those benevolent souls who remain nameless as they paid in cash. Additionally, a big shout out to the CDRC team for cooking/organizing the fundraising drive and for the extra hardworking volunteer/best-salesperson, Serkan Muhsin!

We are humbled by this outpouring of community support and reminded of the Margaret Mead quote about how a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Even during these difficult times, there are always people willing to help those in need. We are extremely grateful. Thank you✊

Lost & Found

Sometimes, I doubt whether what I do makes much of a difference here at the Maastricht University Faculty of Law. And then there are moments when I get something like this and I'm flooded with emotions. From working together with the Facutly Council to Vis Moot prep, or running various marketing events and organizing charity bake sales, collaborating with students like Annefleur Timmermans, Floortje Stijnen and Mariah Kuijer has been a privilege and an absolute delight. Thank you for the beautiful haiku collage 🤣 and making my job so much more meaningful 🤩

An Ode to the Teachers (in Times of Budget Cuts)

One of my mentors once described academic institutions as “revolving doors” where good people come and go, for one reason or another. While I am very happy to see colleagues move on to greener pastures, I’ve always felt a sense of sadness seeing wonderful people leave Maastricht University.

The budget cuts in Dutch higher education have made it even more difficult for universities to retain talented colleagues, as we now have to push good people out our doors. I will have a particularly bittersweet feeling saying goodbye to (some 🤞 of) the tutors that have been absolutely instrumental in shaping our new Conflict Prevention & Resolution course.

They are extremely hard working, highly competent, charismatic individuals (each in their own unique ways), who care deeply about their students and passionate about teaching. They are all brilliant jurists and problem-solvers (and god forbid, they are mostly non-Dutch). I have no doubt whatsoever that they will be positive catalysts in whatever career they pursue and any institution or firm would be fortunate to have dedicated people like Sabine Kneepkens, Sahel Bahman, David Kermode, Lucia Jeremiašová, Shanay Das Guru, and Francisca Nemeth-Trocado in their ranks.

I just wish (perhaps rather selfishly) that we could have been that lucky institution. More generally, I hope that the current policies won't turn the bittersweet revolving doors into one-way turnstiles. Regardless of whether these tutors stay with us or not, they deserve nothing but respect and recognition for the incredible work that they are doing!! So thank you tutors!!

Moderating the Globalisation & Law Network Maastricht Presentation by Gamze Erdem Turkelli

Absolute delight to moderate the Globalisation & Law Network Maastricht presentation by Gamze ERDEM TÜRKELLİ on her ERC StG Project, GENESIS, about governing human rights through partnerships. Insightful discussions about the diffusion of responsibility in multistakeholder partnerships, encroaching influence and impact of businesses and philanthrocapitalists in closing/exploiting governance gaps, and much more (including chatting about Begüm Kilimcioğlu, who did her Master’s thesis with me and now doing her PhD with Gamze at University of Antwerp). Great session all around!!

Maastricht Vis Moot Day 2025!

Many many thanks to the Vis Teams from Maastricht University, Leiden University, University of Liège, and De Haagse Hogeschool / The Hague University of Applied Sciences for taking part in the first Maastricht Vis Moot Day at the Maastricht University Faculty of Law. A very special thank you to the arbitrators who came to listen and comment on the teams (not to mention on a Saturday): Willem Loof, Alexandru Daniel On, Mindy Nunez Duffourc, Alexandra Zaytseva, Timothy Noelanders, Joan Duhaylungsod, Sahel Bahman.

Wishing you all the very best of luck at the Willem C. Vis International Commercial Arbitration Moot in Vienna!!